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| Should you share your sexy wife? |
If you always eat a dish, you will feel bored. In love, too. Modern man is who is willing to share new feelings for his beloved wife of himself. Ask her, if she would like a strange man? If she likes, open the door for her
Should you share your sexy wife? Have you shared your wife?
Here is a share of a man: Yes I have. It did not make me jealous nor was it arousing to watch. I sat down with a glass of Scotch Whisky in one hand and a cigarette in another and watched my wife have sex with my best friend while his wife and I watched. It was just interesting to see my wife have sex from a distance. When it was over we drove home. My wife said that she hated it and never wanted to have sex with another man again. She was bruised and sore. My wife is a very petite woman who was a virgin when we met. She was only used to making love and not being pounded into a couch cushion with no kissing or tenderness. She never experienced sex just for pleasure and did not like it.
When we got home though, we had very intense sex and that lasted for about two weeks. After that my wife started to setup threesomes with her girlfriends because they all thought I was hot. We ended up forming a poly triad with my wife’s best friend that lasted for most of our 40+ years of marriage. I shared my wife with her girlfriend for most of our marriage and it never bothered me. To us it was just our normal life.
Prior to meeting my wife I lived with a girl who I shared with my friends and many strangers. She was into cuckolding and BDSM with me as her sexual submissive. I found it exciting to know that my girlfriend was desired by many men and yet chose to come home to me each night and be my girlfriend. It was not like I was financially supporting her or paying for anything she bought. She said that she just found me to be the person who she wanted to father her baby due to my looks, intelligence and sense of humor. She wanted me for my genes. :) Unlike my wife though, I did not love my girlfriend and I knew I was moving at the end of the year and would never see her again. She was a sex addict who had to have every man she met want her sexually and I was getting more sex than I could handle so I really did not care who she slept with. The relationship was going nowhere anyway and she was waking me up at all hours of the night for sex so I was happy to have others take care of her unquenchable sexual tastes.
With my wife it was different. She was stoned and the guy was her Pinochle partner for 3 years but was into rough sex and he hurt her. She just wanted to try sex with someone other than me to see what it was like but it turned her off to other men. It is funny but we have often met couples who wanted to wife swap or watch me with their wives. I was attractive to women back then and also sterile, so no pregnancy worries. I never accepted an invitation to have sex with a wife while the husband watched. I did try it once but the husband freaked out, grabbed his half dressed wife and left. The next time the wife came without him.
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I think differently now than then. I think that if you want your wife to have sex with other men, there is a problem in your relationship that you are hoping to fix. Let’s face it, it is not normal to want your wife to have sex with other men. We are not genetically disposed to want that. For me it was guilt that I was having sex with other women and my wife was sharing her girlfriend with me so I wanted to return the favor. It was never going to be something we did all the time though. A hear couples say that they do this because their relationship is strong. If it were strong though, why would you do this. Plus I have never seen any couple last who shared their spouse. Not one. All divorced multiple times. No old timers like me. I saw the light after I left my wife for a month and after that I stuck with my wife and her girlfriend. Much safer that way.
And here is a reply of a woman from India: I have never been shared by my husband or boyfriend but a very close friend from Mumbai was framed by her husband and fell in the trap.
My friend was married since 5 years and was well educated running her own business but her husband was drunkard and pretty much had fights every night. They lived in a 1bhk flat with her in laws and a 4 year old daughter.
One night he came home and was injured after a fight. he was brought home by his friend who was also drunk but in senses. It was around 1am so he insisted him to stay at their place as he lived in Thane. They had no other place so he was asked to sleep in their room on a floor mattress. She was very uncomfortable but didn’t see any harm. The guy was good looking, single and very flirty. He flirted in front of her husband and he had no objection.
His visits started becoming frequent and she enjoyed his company because she was appreciated unlike by her husband. As a friend, she even started meeting him outside home for coffee, shopping etc.
Once her in laws were out of town, daughter in school and husband at work when they planned to go for a coffee. She was running late so he came home to pick her up. They both got involved physically and since then it became frequent. This went on for months and she started believing that he will marry her and accept daughter. She really wished to come out of her disturbing life but was shocked when he shared picture of a girl who was considered by his parents for arranged marriage. She confronted him to which he revealed entire setup by her husband who was being paid by this guy to buy drinks etc.
She has moved on, got divorced and living happily as a single mother.
And here is a man's thinks: I think this is entirely between spouses. Some people do and are perfectly happy with it, that is none of my business. Me and my wife are completely exclusive. There is not some inherently moral attribute that makes this preferable, it is simply who we are. Being who we are, which is not inherently better than anyone else, any kind of sharing would be incredibly hurtful to the other.
I am actually aggressively jealous. My wife does not think she is desirable, despite my indications otherwise, but secretly in my head I rather wish she would hide from the world so that no one else could even look at her. Obviously I do not actually want such an absurd thing, but no there is absolutely no sharing. Sorry folks, I wouldn't even be comfortable with her getting a massage from a professional guy.
She hates bugs, I hate guys touching her. We are all entitled to irrational fears.
And you? Do you share your wife?
I shared my wife once early on in my marriage, if we are talking about intercourse and not just making out but saving the main event for me. That was only for a few years but for 30 years I shared my wife with her girlfriend. She always made sure that I was included in their sex so that it did not feel like it was cheating. It was a dirty job but someone had to have all those threesomes over all those years. In fact, her girlfriend had her own room in our home and lived with us for the first 7 years until she got married to a guy who shared her with us for the rest of our time together. We knew a lot of people who shared their wife since we ran with that crowd.
But a lady said that: It's rather troubling to me that someone would classify his or her wife as a thing to be shared. She's a person with agency, meaning she can decide for herself whether the idea of "sharing" is one that is compatible with the long-term health of her marriage and her own needs.
Moreover, if you are trying to decide between a monogamous relationship and one where your wife has other partners, I would hope that the latter scenario is one in which she is selecting her partners, is free to decline relationships that do not interest her, and that she would enter into such an arrangement with you of her own volition, in partnership with you, rather than one in which she is required to perform sexual acts with other men based on your instructions.
Barring that odious arrangement, and assuming your wife is amenable to the concept of "sharing" that the two of you have discussed as a possibility, your decision becomes about whether you would be able to thrive in the proposed relationship, and what the terms of that relationship would need to be in order for both you and your wife to be safe and happy.
Depending on your location, family background, religious beliefs, and interest in the approval of others, multiple-partner relationships can result in some pretty intense judgment from others. Ideally, the decision to open your marriage relationship to additional partners on either side is one that would be made together, and is a private, individual decision that Quora would not necessarily be able to assist. Not everyone is comfortable in a polyamorous relationship, and for those that are, there is no right way to arrange things except in terms of what works for all parties involved.
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